Hey Girl Hey

If I could go back in time, I would tell my 18-year-old self so many things. I would start by saying you do not need to impress ANYONE – BUT GOD, you are enough. Then, I would tell her pleasing God should be your first priority. It really doesn’t matter what others think of you. As long as you’re living to please God, that’s all that matters; you’ll see what I mean, just keep living. The people you hang out with on a daily basis won’t be there in a few years, your lives will take different paths, and you’ll fall out of touch. Stop partying so much; it’s a waste of time, energy and money. Think about it; you could save that money and use it to start a business doing what you love.

Most [boys] your age they don’t really care about you. They only want your body; they don’t even care to get to know you. That’s why you should NEVER give them the opportunity to have one of your most precious gifts. Save that special treasure for your future Husband who will have paid the price of marriage and commitment. He will treasure you and all that you stand for. He will be the one to love you the way you’re supposed to be loved. Be patient, don’t rush things, remember anything worth having takes time and hard work. With that said, be sure that you’re putting in the time.

Why’d You Do That?

Stop drinking so much. It isn’t ladylike. NO ONE likes a drunk woman…why? Um. Because she’s typically loud and men tend to view her as easy. Plus it’s not a good look for a beautiful young lady; you should desire respect. Oh wait, have I mentioned that alcohol is horrible for your body. It ruins your bones, among other things. (YOU’RE NOT EVEN OF LEGAL AGE TO CONSUME ALCOHOL!) You could get in some serious trouble. Tsk tsk tsk…  STOP worrying so much, consider this scripture. Worrying doesn’t change anything, action does. SO, instead of using that energy to think of the worst. Hope for the best and have faith that things will work out for your good.

Why do you think you have to wear that kind of clothes to get attention? Don’t you know that’s the wrong kind of attention you’re seeking? If they can’t see you for who you are inside, then it doesn’t matter how they view you otherwise. Many can dress scantily clad; however, there is fewer woman in this world who strive to be a Proverbs 31 woman. That should be your goal. Her character is far more precious than rubies.

Why are you so negative? Your life isn’t that bad. Sure you’ve had some setbacks, but haven’t we all? Pick yourself up, dust off and keep it moving. Don’t take things too lightly either. You have to focus to get things done, remember there’s a time and a place for everything. Too many bad choices can reek havoc on anyone’s life. Be cautious. Guard your heart sweet thang. Not everyone is for you. You’ll save yourself some drama and hurt in the process.

A Lesson for a Lifetime

Be sure to appreciate those closest to you; you never know how life will turn out. Cherish the present. People are here today and gone tomorrow. You don’t want to look back and say oh man, I coulda, shoulda, woulda…at that point it’s too late, and the opportunity you once had is now just a memory. Be KIND, oh man, I could write a book telling my 18-year-old self to Be KIND. No matter how you feel take control of those emotions and be KIND. Make wise decisions, and be sure you treat others as you want to be treated. You may want to cross that bridge again, and you can’t cross it if it’s BURNT down to the GROUDAAAA (do any of you remember Chris Crocker ?) Yeah. I definitely used to watch ALOT of him at 18.

Cherish your current season. Although, you may be facing some difficulties, keep in mind there’s a lesson in it all. Once you’ve learned it, you can move on to bigger and better things. Each season comes with its trials and tests; simply depend on Christ He’ll help you through it all. Spend time with God daily; you’ll need to build a strong relationship with Him in order to hear His voice. Through your relationship with Him,


Yours Truly,

The [OLDER]. Wiser. Self.


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  1. Krista

    April 13, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    Gosh, the things I would tell to my eighteen year old self. Haha I feel you, girl!
    It truly is important to appreciate those closest to you. Sometimes I still find myself looking back and wishing I’d spent more time with someone.


    1. denofgrace

      April 25, 2017 at 4:46 pm

      Well at least we know now, you live and you learn 🙂 that’s for sure! <3

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